If you are like most people, your answer is probably yes, but as leaders we are not used to admitting this. Perhaps there are certain people and events that intimidate even you. And with those people and at those events, a part of you wonders …
What matters is not that you have these thoughts, as we all have them. What does matter is if you let these kinds of thoughts change you in ways that are not useful. For example, at formal events, do you believe that you can no longer be yourself and you need to put on a mask because who you are is now somehow woefully insufficient? Or, do your thoughts cause you to lose confidence, become quieter, and focus only on trying to avoid any type of “failure”? Perhaps the opposite occurs, your thoughts result in you become louder and more verbose than you would ever otherwise be, all in an effort to assert your value and worthiness at times when you yourself doubt it?
Here’s a tip that is readily available: Be yourself. Being yourself is one of the most powerful and attractive things you can ever do. Celebrate your authentic self by speaking kindly to yourself, within yourself. Give yourself authentically to others and see how the world gives back to you beyond your wildest imaginations. Be.
If you’d like to talk more about this or anything else related to leadership, check out the work my colleagues and I do at Syntrina Leadership. We’d love to talk with you.
Susanne Biro is confidant and coach to C-suite and executive level leaders, a Forbes contributor, TEDx speaker, author and vegan advocate. For over 17 years, she has worked internationally with senior-level leaders in some of the world’s best companies. Whether coaching one-on-one or authoring, designing, and delivering leadership programs, her passion is the same: to help leaders reach their next level of personal, professional, and leadership mastery. Susanne can be reached at 604.864.5408 or via email at firstname.lastname@example.org